Did you know that most people fall in to one of 5 categories when it comes to enjoying an experience

… for example a holiday destination. Knowing your preference and that of your partner, you will be able to choose more exciting or relaxing activities which can fulfill you both.

Before continuing, take a moment to think of a restaurant visit you’ve had and particularly enjoyed. Take a breath and that moment to think about a restaurant visit you enjoyed now before continuing.

Taking one of the meals, describe it (ideally out loud), and notice what you talk about. Is it the:

  1. People – you focus on the people, conversations and who is part of the experience.
  2. Place – you focus on the decor, the atmosphere and location of venue
  3. Things – your attention is drawn to stuff and things – the look of the meal, the presentation of the wine and tableware and even mobile phones or people’s keys.
  4. Activity – you are motivated by doing things, going places, keeping busy, ticking things off your list.
  5. Information – you are interested in ideas and learning, and perhaps the details of the menus and wine lists or other things you could read.

What this means …

With a bit of self-reflection, we can identify our preference; with this knowledge, we can help ourselves be clear and confident in our views and respectful of others’ differing opinions. Have a What’s your Favourite Restaurant Game with people you care about and listen to what they’re telling you.

BTW you can have more than one preference, because we all know that moods change, but you’ll likely prefer some areas and have no interest in others.


When planning a holiday, select activities where one person can perhaps focus on making new friends (People), whilst the other reads the guide book and makes plans (Information), whilst the other runs around booking things and organising transport (Activity). It could make the whole experience so much more enjoyable for all as they beaver away doing what they love.


“If a disagreement exists, there is a mismatch between what is being said, and what is being heard.” David Woodier


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